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Picky eater in Japanese: 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい, 偏食へんしょく and 食わず嫌くわずぎらい

"Picky eater" in Japanese is usually 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい (すききらいがおおい), literally "has a lot of likes and dislikes." 偏食へんしょく (へんしょく) is the more clinical word for an unbalanced diet, and 食わず嫌くわずぎらい (くわずぎらい) is disliking a food you have never actually tried — a word Japanese people also use for music, anime, or anything they wrote off without giving it a chance.

That last meaning is why 食わず嫌くわずぎらい is worth learning even if you eat everything. It comes up in conversations that have nothing to do with food.

The basics

How do you say someone is a picky eater?

The everyday phrase is 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい. 好すき is like, 嫌きらい is dislike, and put together 好すき嫌きらい means "likes and dislikes," especially about food.

うちの子こは好すき嫌きらいが多おおくて大変たいへんです。 — My kid is a picky eater, and it's tough. (polite, a parent talking to another parent) 好すき嫌きらいはありますか。 — Is there anything you don't eat? (polite, a host asking a guest)

The second sentence is one you will hear as a guest in Japan. The polite answer is 特とくにないです (nothing in particular) or a short list: 生なまの魚さかながちょっと苦手にがてです. If the reason is medical rather than taste, 苦手にがて sounds like a mere preference, so allergy in Japanese has you say why instead: アレルギーがあるので、卵たまご抜ぬきでお願ねがいします.

What does 好すき嫌きらいが激はげしい mean?

激はげしい is "intense," so 好すき嫌きらいが激はげしい is "very picky." It is also used for people who have strong opinions about everything, not just food.

兄あには好すき嫌きらいが激はげしいから、店みせ選えらびが難むずかしい。 — My brother is really picky, so choosing a restaurant is hard. (casual)

What is 偏食へんしょく?

偏食へんしょく means an unbalanced diet: eating only a narrow range of foods. It sounds more like a doctor or a school nurse than a friend. In daily talk, 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい is softer.

偏食へんしょくが続つづくと、栄養えいようが偏かたよります。 — If you keep eating an unbalanced diet, your nutrition becomes unbalanced. (formal, health advice)

Beyond the basics

What does 食わず嫌くわずぎらい mean?

食わず嫌くわずぎらい is built from 食くう (to eat, rough) + ず (without) + 嫌きらい (dislike): "disliking without eating." It is the child who says they hate mushrooms but has never tasted one.

納豆なっとうは食わず嫌くわずぎらいだったけど、食たべてみたらおいしかった。 — I refused natto without trying it, but when I finally tried it, it was good. (casual, a common story)

Notice the grammar: 食わず嫌くわずぎらいだった, used as a noun with だ. You can also say 食わず嫌くわずぎらいをする or 食わず嫌くわずぎらいしないで.

食わず嫌くわずぎらいしないで、一口ひとくちだけ食たべてみて。 — Don't write it off before you try it. Just have one bite. (casual, encouraging someone)

How is 食わず嫌くわずぎらい used outside food?

This is where the word gets interesting. Japanese people use it for any hobby, genre, or person they dismissed without experience.

アニメは食わず嫌くわずぎらいだったけど、友ともだちに勧すすめられてハマった。 — I'd always written off anime, but a friend recommended one and I got hooked. (casual) ジャズは食わず嫌くわずぎらいしてた。 — I'd been dismissing jazz without really listening to it. (casual)

If you want to tell someone they should give something a chance, 食わず嫌くわずぎらいはもったいないよ is a natural nudge: "it's a waste to dismiss it without trying." For more on that feeling, see mottainai.

Is 食くう rude?

食くう is the rough, masculine "eat." In most sentences you would use 食たべる. But 食わず嫌くわずぎらい is a fixed expression, so the rough verb inside it doesn't make the phrase rude. Anyone can say 食わず嫌くわずぎらい, including in polite speech: 食わず嫌くわずぎらいでした.

How do you say you don't eat something without sounding rude?

Japanese is gentle about food refusals. The most useful word is 苦手にがて (にがて), which softens "I don't like it" into "it's not really my thing." (For more on 苦手にがて, see good at and bad at.)

すみません、辛からいものが苦手にがてなんです。 — Sorry, I'm not great with spicy food. (polite, at a restaurant or dinner)

Other useful phrases:

  • 〜が食たべられません — I can't eat ~ (allergy, religion, or strong dislike)
  • 〜抜ぬきでお願ねがいします — ~ taken out, please (at a restaurant)
  • 口くちに合あわない — doesn't suit my taste (polite, a little formal)

玉たまねぎ抜ぬきでお願ねがいします。 — No onions, please. (polite, ordering)

How do you talk about the food you do like?

The other side of 好すき嫌きらい is 好物こうぶつ (こうぶつ), "a favorite food." 大好物だいこうぶつ (だいこうぶつ) is "my absolute favorite." These are warmer than 好すきな食べ物たべもの and very common in conversation.

カレーは子こどものころからの大好物だいこうぶつです。 — Curry has been my absolute favorite since I was a kid. (polite, self-introduction) これ、父ちちの好物こうぶつなんだ。 — This is my dad's favorite. (casual, bringing food to share)

Anime characters often have a signature 好物こうぶつ, and fans quote it: a character's 好物こうぶつ is as much a part of their profile as their birthday. If a host asks 好すき嫌きらいはありますか, answering with your 好物こうぶつ first — 特とくにないです。お寿司すしが大好物だいこうぶつです — turns a question about limits into friendly small talk.

Common mistakes

  • Saying 食わず嫌くわずぎらい about food you have tried. If you tried it and didn't like it, it is just 嫌きらい or 苦手にがて. 食わず嫌くわずぎらい only means you never tried.
  • Saying 好すき嫌きらいがたくさん. It is 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい, not たくさん. The adjective 多おおい is the natural fit here.
  • Using 嫌きらい directly to a host. 納豆なっとうが嫌きらいです is honest, but 苦手にがて is kinder. 嫌きらい sounds strong, especially about food someone made for you.
  • Using 偏食へんしょく about a friend. It sounds like a diagnosis. Say 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい.
  • Replacing 食くう with 食たべる. 食たべず嫌きらい exists, but 食わず嫌くわずぎらい is the standard form. The rough verb is part of the fixed phrase.

Which phrase should you use?

Phrase Reading Meaning When
好すき嫌きらいが多おおい すききらいがおおい Picky eater Everyday, neutral
好すき嫌きらいが激はげしい すききらいがはげしい Very picky Everyday, a bit critical
偏食へんしょく へんしょく Unbalanced diet Health, school, formal
食わず嫌くわずぎらい くわずぎらい Dislike without trying Food, hobbies, anything
苦手にがて にがて Not my thing Polite refusal
口くちに合あわない くちにあわない Doesn't suit my taste Polite, a little formal

Practice

Answers are hidden — try your own sentence first, then open. Questions 1 and 2 are a pair: one person has tried the food, one hasn't.

1. "I've never eaten natto, but I'm sure I hate it." Which word fits this person?

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食わず嫌くわずぎらい — they haven't tried it, so it is disliking without eating: 納豆なっとうは食わず嫌くわずぎらいです.

2. "I tried natto once and didn't like it." (polite, soft)

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一度いちど食たべましたが、納豆なっとうは苦手にがてです。 — they tried it, so 食わず嫌くわずぎらい no longer fits. 苦手にがて keeps it polite.

3. "My kid is a picky eater." (polite)

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うちの子こは好すき嫌きらいが多おおいです。 — 好すき嫌きらい takes 多おおい, not たくさん.

4. A host asks: "Is there anything you don't eat?" (polite)

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好すき嫌きらいはありますか。 — the standard way to ask a guest.

5. "Sorry, I'm not great with spicy food." (polite)

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すみません、辛からいものが苦手にがてなんです。 — 苦手にがて is softer than 嫌きらい, and なんです adds a gentle explanation.

6. "No onions, please." (polite, ordering)

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玉たまねぎ抜ぬきでお願ねがいします。 — 抜ぬきで means "with ~ taken out."

7. "I'd written off anime without trying it, but I got hooked." (casual)

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アニメは食わず嫌くわずぎらいだったけど、ハマった。 — 食わず嫌くわずぎらい works for anything, not just food.

8. Fix this: 好すき嫌きらいがたくさんあります。

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好すき嫌きらいが多おおいです。 — 好すき嫌きらい goes with 多おおい. たくさんある sounds like you are counting items.

9. "Don't dismiss it — just try one bite." (casual)

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食わず嫌くわずぎらいしないで、一口ひとくちだけ食たべてみて。 — てみて is "try doing," and 一口ひとくち is one bite.

Use a trial lesson to explain your own food likes and dislikes with 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい, and tell a 食わず嫌くわずぎらい story.

FAQ

Is 好すき嫌きらいが多おおい rude to say about someone? Not really. It is a plain description. Said about an adult in front of them, it can sound like a mild criticism, so tone matters.

What is the opposite of a picky eater? 好すき嫌きらいがない (no likes or dislikes) or 何なんでも食たべる (eats anything). Both are common compliments for kids.

Can I use 食わず嫌くわずぎらい about a person? Yes. あの人ひとのこと、食わず嫌くわずぎらいしてた means "I'd written that person off before getting to know them."

How do I explain a food allergy? Use アレルギー: えびアレルギーがあります. It is clearer than 苦手にがて and people will take it seriously.

Is there a word for someone who eats anything? 何なんでも食たべる人ひと is the everyday phrase. 雑食ざっしょく (ざっしょく, omnivorous) is used as a joke too, including about reading and music: 雑食ざっしょくです means "I like a bit of everything."

Why is it 食くわず and not 食たべず? Because the phrase is old and fixed. The older rough verb 食くう stayed inside it. 食たべず嫌きらい is sometimes heard, but 食わず嫌くわずぎらい is the standard.

Vocabulary from this article

Tap the block to select all of it, then copy. In Anki: File → Import, note type Basic, separator Tab — the first column becomes the front, the second the back.

好き嫌い	すききらい — likes and dislikes
好き嫌いが多い	すききらいがおおい — picky (about food)
好き嫌いが激しい	すききらいがはげしい — very picky
偏食	へんしょく — unbalanced diet
食わず嫌い	くわずぎらい — disliking without trying
食う	くう — to eat (rough)
苦手	にがて — not good with, not one's thing
口に合わない	くちにあわない — doesn't suit one's taste
抜き	ぬき — without, taken out
辛い	からい — spicy
納豆	なっとう — natto (fermented soybeans)
玉ねぎ	たまねぎ — onion
一口	ひとくち — one bite
栄養	えいよう — nutrition
ハマる	はまる — to get hooked
雑食	ざっしょく — omnivorous
アレルギー	アレルギー — allergy
好物	こうぶつ — favorite food
大好物	だいこうぶつ — absolute favorite food

I'm Yuuki, a Japanese teacher based in Tokyo. I've taught on italki as a Top 1% teacher and watched over 1,500 anime. 食わず嫌くわずぎらい often comes up when a learner mentions an anime genre they "don't watch" — once they learn the word, they tend to start using it about their own habits. For describing what food tastes like, see Japanese taste words and words for delicious.

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