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N3Grammar, one piece at a time · Sep 17, 2026

れる: how to say "get used to it" in Japanese — and why it takes に, not を

れる (なれる) means "to become accustomed to," and it takes に, not を: 日本にほん生活せいかつ**に**れました. It is an intransitive verb — getting used to something is something that happens to you, not something you do to it — and that is exactly why the particle is に.

This is a verb learners need early and often, because "I'm getting used to it" is the honest answer to most questions about living somewhere new. It is also a clean example of the intransitive logic that runs through Japanese.

The basics

〜にれる

日本にほん生活せいかつれました。 — I've got used to life in Japan. (polite) 満員電車まんいんでんしゃにはまだれません。 — I still haven't got used to packed trains. (polite)

The thing you are getting used to takes に. 日本にほん生活せいかつれました is wrong — れる has no object, because you are not doing anything to the life in question. It is doing something to you.

This is the same pattern as る (電車でんしゃる) and すわる (椅子いすすわる): arriving into a state, marked with に. If that grouping is new, transitive and intransitive verbs is the underlying idea.

れている: the state of being used to it

The plain past れました says the change happened. The ている form says you are currently in the resulting state, which is usually what you mean.

もうれています。 — I'm used to it now. (polite — describing the current state) まだれていません。 — I'm not used to it yet. (polite)

This is the standard ている-as-state usage, the same one that makes っている mean "I know" rather than "I am knowing."

れてきた: getting there

The てくる form adds "gradually, up to now," which is the most honest answer about a process still in progress.

すこしずつれてきました。 — I'm gradually getting used to it. (polite)

すこしずつれてきました is worth memorizing as a unit. It is what you say three months into anything difficult, and it is both true and pleasant to hear.

Beyond the basics

れる vs らす: the intransitive pair

れる happens to you. らす is the transitive partner — deliberately accustoming something or someone.

からださむさにらします。 — I'm acclimatizing my body to the cold. (polite — deliberate) からださむさにれました。 — My body got used to the cold. (polite — it happened)

らす is much less common and mostly appears in training, health and engineering contexts — breaking in shoes, running in an engine, conditioning an athlete.

〜のにれる: getting used to doing something

To get used to an action rather than a thing, nominalize it first.

はやきるのにれました。 — I've got used to getting up early. (polite)

The のに here is の (nominalizer) plus に (the particle れる needs) — not the "even though" のに. Same shape, different origin, and the difference is visible in what comes before it.

You can also use ことに: はやきることにれました is equally correct and slightly more formal. See こと vs の for which to pick.

れ as a noun

れ (なれ) on its own is a noun meaning "familiarity, experience, being practised at something."

れの問題もんだいです。 — It's just a matter of getting used to it. (polite — a very common reassurance)

れの問題もんだいです is the sentence a Japanese person will say to you when you complain that something is difficult, and it is genuinely encouraging rather than dismissive. The related れているひと means "someone who is experienced at it."

馴染なじむ: settling in, socially

馴染なじむ (なじむ) overlaps with れる and is not the same. れる is about capability and comfort; 馴染なじむ is about blending in.

あたらしい職場しょくば馴染なじめました。 — I settled into the new workplace. (polite — socially, I fit in) あたらしい仕事しごとれました。 — I got used to the new job. (polite — I can do it now)

You can be れた at a job without being 馴染なじみんだ in the team. The distinction is real and it is one Japanese makes frequently when talking about workplaces and schools.

The negative is usually れない, not れません

Both exist, but れない as a modifier is a common set phrase meaning "unfamiliar."

れないみちあるきました。 — I walked along an unfamiliar road. (polite)

れない土地とち ("a place you don't know"), れない仕事しごと ("work you're not used to") — this attributive use is very common in writing and adds a note of mild difficulty or unease.

Common mistakes

  • Using を with れる. 日本語にほんごれました is wrong. It is 日本語にほんごれました.
  • Using the plain past when you mean the current state. れました says the change happened; れています says you are used to it now. The second is usually what you want.
  • Confusing the のに in れるのに with "even though." In きるのにれる, the の is a nominalizer and the に belongs to れる.
  • Using れる for social belonging. Fitting into a group is 馴染なじむ. れる is about capability.
  • Reaching for らす. It exists, but it is rare and mostly technical. If in doubt, れる is the one you want.
  • Reading れ as かん. The noun and the verb both use なれ. The on-reading かん appears in compounds like 習慣しゅうかん (しゅうかん, habit).

The れる family

Form Meaning Example
〜にれる To get used to 生活せいかつれる
〜にれている To be used to (state) もうれています
〜にれてきた To be gradually getting used to すこしずつれてきました
〜のにれる To get used to doing はやきるのにれる
れない + noun Unfamiliar ~ れないみち
れ (noun) Familiarity, practice れの問題もんだいです
〜をらす To accustom something (transitive) からださむさにらす
〜に馴染なじ To settle in socially 職場しょくば馴染なじ

Practice

Questions 1 and 2 are the pair: the change versus the state it leaves behind.

1. Say "I've got used to life in Japan," politely.

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日本にほん生活せいかつれました。 — に, not を. れる has no object.

2. Say "I'm used to it now," describing your current state.

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もうれています。 — ている for the resulting state, which is usually what you mean.

3. Say "I'm gradually getting used to it," politely.

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すこしずつれてきました。 — てくる adds "gradually, up to now." Worth memorizing as a unit.

4. Say "I've got used to getting up early."

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はやきるのにれました。 — Nominalize the action first: の plus the に that れる requires.

5. Say "I still haven't got used to packed trains."

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満員電車まんいんでんしゃにはまだれません。 — The は after に contrasts this with everything you have got used to.

6. Reassure someone that it is just a matter of getting used to it.

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れの問題もんだいです。れ as a noun. Encouraging rather than dismissive.

7. Say "I settled into the new workplace" — socially.

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あたらしい職場しょくば馴染なじめました。馴染なじむ for fitting in with people. れる would mean you can do the work.

8. Say "I walked along an unfamiliar road," politely.

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れないみちあるきました。れない before a noun means "unfamiliar," with a note of mild unease.

9. Fix this: 日本語にほんごれました。

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日本語にほんごれました。れる is intransitive. The thing you get used to takes に.

10. What is the difference between 仕事しごとれた and 職場しょくば馴染なじみんだ?

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れたたできるようになった / 馴染なじみんだんだひととなじんだ — One is about capability, the other about belonging. You can have one without the other.

FAQ

Why does れる take に when English says "used to"? Because Japanese frames it as arriving into a state rather than acting on something. に is the particle for arrival, the same one in 電車でんしゃる and 椅子いすすわる.

Is れました or れています better? れています in most sentences, because you are usually describing how things are now rather than announcing the moment of change. れました is fine when the change itself is the news.

Can I say れつつある? Yes, and it means the same as れてきた but in a distinctly written register. 〜つつある is essay and report Japanese; 〜てきた is what people say.

What is the difference between れる and おぼえる? おぼえる is learning or memorizing; れる is becoming comfortable. You can おぼえた a route and still not be れた to driving it.

Is れの問題もんだいです dismissive? No, the opposite. It means "this is normal and it will pass," which is why people say it to reassure. Hearing it is good news.

How do I say "I'll never get used to it"? ずっとれないとおもいます, or more emphatically 一生いっしょうれないとおもいます. Both are common and both are usually said with some humour.

Vocabulary from this article

Tap the block to select all of it, then copy. In Anki: File → Import, note type Basic, separator Tab — the first column becomes the front, the second the back.

慣れる	なれる — to get used to
慣らす	ならす — to accustom (something)
慣れ	なれ — familiarity, practice
馴染む	なじむ — to settle in, to fit in
生活	せいかつ — life, daily living
満員電車	まんいんでんしゃ — packed train
職場	しょくば — workplace
少しずつ	すこしずつ — little by little
問題	もんだい — problem, matter
土地	とち — land, a place
道	みち — road, way
体	からだ — body
寒さ	さむさ — the cold
習慣	しゅうかん — habit, custom
覚える	おぼえる — to learn, to memorize
起きる	おきる — to get up
一生	いっしょう — a whole lifetime
仕事	しごと — work, job

I'm Yuuki, a Japanese teacher based in Tokyo. I've taught on italki as a Top 1% teacher and watched over 1,500 anime. すこしずつれてきました is the sentence I most like hearing from students about three months in, because it is the point where the language stops being a project and starts being a habit.

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Sources: the author's own lessons and standard reference grammars.

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