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N4How you sound · Oct 4, 2026

Kisama meaning: 貴様きさま, てめえ, お前まえ, あんた — the rude "you" of anime, ranked

Kisama (貴様きさま, きさま) means "you", but said with contempt and hostility: closer to "you bastard" than a neutral "you". In modern Japanese you hear it almost only in fiction, from villains, arrogant rivals and furious heroes, and you should never say it to a real person.

Anime gives learners a strange problem. Japanese has many words for "you", and the ones you hear most in action shows are the ones you can use least. 貴様きさま, てめえ, お前まえ and あんた all appear in subtitles as plain "you", yet they range from "a bit rough" to "I want to fight you". This post explains what each one sounds like, ranks them, and shows the surprising history of 貴様きさま, a word that once sounded noble.

What does 貴様きさま mean?

How rude is 貴様きさま?

Very. Treat it as a real insult, not a joke. 貴様きさま shows open contempt, as if the speaker looks down on you from a great height. It is the "you" of a villain addressing a hero, or a hero who has finally lost his temper.

貴様きさま、何者なにものだ! — You! Who are you?! (hostile, a classic confrontation line) 貴様きさまだけは許ゆるさない。 — You're the one I'll never forgive. (hostile, a revenge line)

In anime, proud characters such as Vegeta in ドラゴンボール use 貴様きさま often; it fits his arrogance. In real life, saying it to someone would be a declaration of hostility.

Why does 貴様きさま contain the kanji for "noble"?

Because it used to be respectful. 貴たかし means "precious, noble" and 様さま is the polite suffix you know from お客様きゃくさま. Centuries ago, 貴様きさま was a respectful way to address someone, especially in writing such as letters. From the late Edo period it was being used by men toward equals and people below them, and over time it lost its respect and became an insult.

貴様きさまは昔むかし、ていねいな言葉ことばだった。 — 貴様きさま used to be a polite word. (neutral, a fun fact)

This happens to many second-person words in Japanese: a respectful "you" gets used so much that it wears down. お前まえ went through a similar slide. It is one reason Japanese speakers so often avoid "you" altogether and use names instead.

Beyond the basics

What is てめえ?

てめえ (temee) is a rough, angry "you", the street-fighter version. It comes from 手前てまえ (てまえ), "this side, in front of me", which later shifted to mean "you" and became coarse.

てめえ、ふざけんな! — You, quit messing around! (very rough, angry, male speech)

てめえ sounds hot-headed rather than arrogant. Where 貴様きさま looks down from above, てめえ gets in your face. It is the favorite of delinquents, rough heroes and characters with a short fuse. Our post on shut up in Japanese has more lines from the same register.

How is お前まえ different?

お前まえ (omae) is rough, but it is also the "you" of close male friendships. Between friends it can sound warm; to a stranger or a superior, it is rude.

お前まえ、今日きょう来くる? — You coming today? (casual, close male friends, not hostile) お前まえに何なにがわかる! — What do you know?! (rough, angry)

The tone carries most of the meaning. It is also the お前まえ of the famous 北斗の拳ほくとのけん line お前まえはもう死しんでいる (see omae wa mou shindeiru). For the pronouns people use about themselves, see ore, boku, watashi.

What about あんた?

あんた is a contracted あなた, casual and often a little sharp. It can be familiar, as from an older relative, or irritated, as from a tsundere character.

あんた、バカ? — Are you an idiot? (casual, sharp, the classic tsundere jab) あんた、元気げんきだった? — Have you been well? (casual, warm, an older relative)

Older speakers, especially in some regions, use あんた warmly with people close to them. Younger speakers often use it when annoyed.

Is there anything more dramatic than 貴様きさま?

おのれ (onore) is an old word that appears in period dramas and fantasy as a curse: "Damn you...!" It is not a "you" you can rank above 貴様きさま so much as a different, theatrical register.

おのれ…! — Damn you...! (archaic, dramatic, a defeated villain)

おのれ originally meant "oneself", like 手前てまえ. You will hear it in samurai stories and from old-fashioned villains, almost never in modern life.

How do these rank, from mild to hostile?

Word Reading Feel Who says it
あなた あなた neutral, often avoided textbooks, forms, strangers in writing
君きみ きみ soft, slightly superior men to juniors, songs
あんた あんた casual, can be sharp older relatives, annoyed speakers
お前まえ おまえ rough or intimate close male friends, angry speakers
てめえ てめえ very rough, angry delinquents, hot-headed heroes
貴様きさま きさま hostile, contemptuous villains, arrogant rivals
おのれ おのれ archaic curse period dramas, fantasy villains

So what should you actually say?

Use the person's name with さん. That is how Japanese speakers usually say "you".

田中たなかさんは、どう思おもいますか。 — What do you think, Mr. Tanaka? (polite, the natural way)

Even あなた, the textbook "you", can feel distant or a little cold when said to someone's face. Names and job titles do the work instead, as our honorifics guide explains.

Common mistakes

  • Copying 貴様きさま from anime. It is hostile. Never use it with a real person.
  • Thinking 貴様きさま is polite because of 様さま. It once was. Today it is the opposite.
  • Using お前まえ with a stranger. It is only friendly between close friends, and even then mostly male speech.
  • Treating あなた as the safe default. It is grammatical but often avoided. Use names.
  • Reading subtitles as neutral. "You" in English hides huge differences in tone.

Quick comparison

Word One-line meaning
貴様きさま "you" with contempt, villain-style
てめえ "you" with anger, street-style
お前まえ rough "you", or warm between male friends
あんた casual "you", sometimes sharp
あなた neutral textbook "you"
(name) + さん what people actually use

Practice

Try each answer yourself before opening it. Questions 3 and 4 are a pair: the same word, two different tones.

1. What does 貴様きさま sound like in modern Japanese?

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A hostile, contemptuous "you" — villain or rival talk, not for real life.

2. Why does 貴様きさま contain the kanji 貴たかし (noble)?

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It used to be respectful — centuries of use wore the respect away until it became an insult.

3. Two close male friends: お前まえ、今日きょう来くる? Is this hostile?

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No — between close friends, お前まえ can be casual and warm.

4. A furious character shouts お前まえに何なにがわかる! Is this hostile?

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Yes — the same お前まえ, but the angry tone makes it rough. This is the pair to question 3.

5. Which word is the hot-headed, street-fighter "you"?

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てめえ — from 手前てまえ, very rough and angry.

6. A tsundere character snaps "Are you an idiot?" Which "you" does she use?

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あんた — あんた、バカ? Casual and sharp.

7. Which old word works like "Damn you...!" in period dramas?

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おのれ — archaic and dramatic.

8. Rank these from mildest to most hostile: 貴様きさま, あなた, お前まえ.

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あなた → お前まえ → 貴様きさま — neutral, rough, then contemptuous.

9. You want to ask Ms. Sato for her opinion politely. How do you say "you"?

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Use her name: 佐藤さとうさんは、どう思おもいますか — names are the natural "you".

10. Is it ever okay to call a stranger 貴様きさま?

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No. — Even as a joke, 貴様きさま is too hostile to use on a real person.

FAQ

How do you pronounce kisama? き・さ・ま, three even beats: ki-sa-ma.

Who says 貴様きさま in anime? Proud villains, arrogant rivals and military characters. Vegeta in ドラゴンボール is a famous example.

Is てめえ worse than 貴様きさま? They are different flavors. てめえ is hot anger; 貴様きさま is cold contempt. Both are fighting words.

Can women say お前まえ or てめえ? In fiction, tough female characters sometimes do. In real life, both are strongly associated with rough male speech.

Is あなた rude? No, but it can feel distant. Wives sometimes call their husbands あなた, like "dear", which is a different, affectionate use.

What does 手前てまえ mean today? In its original sense, 手前てまえ (てまえ) means "this side" or "just before": 駅えきの手前てまえ is "just before the station". The rude "you" is the contracted てめえ.

Vocabulary from this article

Tap the block to select all of it, then copy. In Anki: File → Import, note type Basic, separator Tab — the first column becomes the front, the second the back.

貴様	きさま — you (hostile, contemptuous)
てめえ	てめえ — you (very rough, angry)
手前	てまえ — this side; origin of てめえ
お前	おまえ — you (rough, or warm between friends)
あんた	あんた — you (casual, sometimes sharp)
あなた	あなた — you (neutral); dear (wife to husband)
君	きみ — you (soft, to juniors)
おのれ	おのれ — damn you (archaic)
何者	なにもの — who (on earth)
許す	ゆるす — to forgive
ふざける	ふざける — to mess around, to joke
バカ	バカ — idiot

I'm Yuuki, a Japanese teacher based in Tokyo. I've taught on italki as a Top 1% teacher and watched over 1,500 anime, so most of the example sentences on this blog come from lines I've actually heard students ask about. Learners who study with action anime often arrive with a strong vocabulary of rude "you" words and no polite one, and fixing that is quick once the ranking is clear. For practice with feedback, Book a trial lesson · $13, or work through Japanese practice exercises first.

Sources: the author's own lessons and standard Japanese dictionaries.

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