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N5Talking to real people · Oct 4, 2026

Excuse me in Japanese: すみません, 失礼しつれいします, and the one you need on a crowded train

"Excuse me" in Japanese is usually すみません (sumimasen). Use it to get someone's attention, call a waiter, or ask a stranger a question. When you enter or leave a room, the phrase is 失礼しつれいします (しつれいします), and when you need to squeeze past people on a crowded train, it is すみません、降おります, "excuse me, I'm getting off".

English "excuse me" does several different jobs, and Japanese splits them. The good news is that すみません covers most of them, so a beginner who learns one word is already in decent shape. This post sorts the situations, gives you the exact phrase for each, and adds the very polite and the casual versions for when すみません is not quite right.

How do you say "excuse me" in Japanese?

How do you get someone's attention?

Say すみません, with a slight pause, before your question. It works with shop staff, station staff and strangers on the street.

すみません、駅えきはどこですか。 — Excuse me, where is the station? (polite, asking a stranger) すみません、これはいくらですか。 — Excuse me, how much is this? (polite, in a shop)

Many people soften it further with あの (or あのう) first: あの、すみません…. That small hesitation makes the request feel less abrupt. If you want more help with the question itself, our post on asking directions has the follow-up phrases.

How do you call a waiter?

Raise your hand a little and say すみません, often stretched out: すみませーん. In Japanese restaurants, it is normal to call staff this way rather than waiting for them to come over.

すみませーん! 注文ちゅうもん、お願ねがいします。 — Excuse me! We'd like to order. (polite, calling across a restaurant)

This surprises some visitors, because in some countries calling out would be rude. In many Japanese restaurants, the staff expect it. Some places have a call button on the table instead, which does the same job.

How do you get past people?

Say すみません and add what you are doing: 通とおります (coming through) or 降おります (getting off).

すみません、通とおります。 — Excuse me, coming through. (polite, squeezing past in a crowd) すみません、降おります! — Excuse me, I'm getting off! (polite, on a crowded train)

降おります is the most useful phrase in this post if you ride Tokyo trains. People will step aside when they hear it. Our post on train vocabulary covers more of what you will hear on the platform.

Beyond the basics

What is 失礼しつれいします?

失礼しつれいします (しつれいします), literally "I will be rude", is the "excuse me" for entering or leaving a room, or interrupting someone formally.

失礼しつれいします。 — Excuse me (as I come in). (polite, entering a teacher's office or a meeting room) お先さきに失礼しつれいします。 — Excuse me for leaving before you. (polite, leaving work before your colleagues)

You say 失礼しつれいします when you knock and enter an office, at the start of a job interview, and when you hang up the phone at work. お先さきに失礼しつれいします is the standard line for leaving the office while others are still working. Our post on goodbye in Japanese shows how it fits into daily farewells.

What does 失礼しつれいですが mean?

失礼しつれいですが (しつれいですが), "excuse me, but", softens a question that might feel personal, like asking someone's name or age.

失礼しつれいですが、お名前なまえは? — Excuse me, but may I ask your name? (polite, business or reception) 失礼しつれいですが、おいくつですか。 — Excuse me, but how old are you? (polite, a careful way to ask age)

It warns the listener that a slightly direct question is coming. In business, it is the standard way to ask who is calling.

What is the very polite version?

恐おそれ入いりますが (おそれいりますが) is a very polite "excuse me, but", used by staff with customers and in formal requests.

恐おそれ入いりますが、少々しょうしょうお待まちください。 — I'm sorry to trouble you, but please wait a moment. (very polite, customer service)

You will hear it constantly in shops, hotels and on the phone. As a customer you rarely need to say it, but understanding it helps, because it usually comes before a request.

What is the casual version?

With friends, ごめん or ちょっといい? ("got a sec?") does the job.

ごめん、ちょっと通とおして。 — Sorry, let me through. (casual, friends or family) ねえ、ちょっといい? — Hey, got a minute? (casual, getting a friend's attention)

ちょっと on its own carries a lot of "excuse me" energy, as our post on ちょっと explains. Using すみません with close friends is not wrong, but it can sound distant.

Is すみません also "sorry" and "thank you"?

Yes. すみません covers "excuse me", "I'm sorry" and even "thank you for your trouble". The idea underneath is "I have put you out a little".

すみません、遅おくれました。 — Sorry I'm late. (polite, apology) わざわざすみません。 — Thank you for going to the trouble. (polite, thanks with a touch of apology)

So when someone holds a door for you, すみません is a perfectly natural "thank you". The full apology ladder is in our post on sorry in Japanese.

What about "excuse me" after a sneeze or a burp?

Japanese has no fixed phrase for this. People usually just say nothing, or a quiet 失礼しつれい if they feel it was loud. Our post on sneezing in Japanese explains why there is no "bless you" either.

Common mistakes

  • Saying ごめんなさい to get a stranger's attention. That is an apology. Use すみません.
  • Pushing through a train silently. Say すみません、降おります. People expect it.
  • Saying すみません when entering an office. It is understood, but 失礼しつれいします is the correct set phrase.
  • Using 恐おそれ入いりますが as a customer for everything. It is very formal. すみません is enough.
  • Saying the full すみません too softly in a restaurant. Staff are used to すみませーん called clearly.

Quick comparison

Situation Phrase Register
Asking a stranger すみません、… polite
Calling a waiter すみませーん! polite
Squeezing past すみません、通とおります polite
Getting off a train すみません、降おります polite
Entering or leaving a room 失礼しつれいします polite, formal
Before a personal question 失礼しつれいですが polite
Staff to customers 恐おそれ入いりますが very polite
With friends ごめん / ちょっといい? casual

Practice

Try each answer yourself before opening it. Questions 4 and 5 are a pair: both "excuse me" with movement, but different actions.

1. Ask a stranger where the station is.

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すみません、駅えきはどこですか — すみません gets attention politely.

2. You want to order in a restaurant. What do you call out?

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すみませーん! — then 注文ちゅうもん、お願ねがいします.

3. You knock and enter your teacher's office. What do you say?

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失礼しつれいします — the set phrase for entering a room.

4. You need to squeeze through a crowd on the street. What do you say?

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すみません、通とおります — "Excuse me, coming through."

5. You are on a packed train and your stop has arrived. What do you say?

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すみません、降おります — "Excuse me, I'm getting off." This is the pair to question 4.

6. You are leaving work before your colleagues. What do you say?

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お先さきに失礼しつれいします — the standard line for leaving first.

7. Politely ask a visitor's name at reception.

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失礼しつれいですが、お名前なまえは? — 失礼しつれいですが softens a personal question.

8. A shop clerk says 恐おそれ入いりますが、少々しょうしょうお待まちください. What is happening?

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They are politely asking you to wait a moment — 恐おそれ入いりますが is a very polite "excuse me, but".

9. Casually ask a friend if they have a minute.

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ちょっといい? — the casual "excuse me, got a sec?"

10. Someone holds a door open for you. Which short word works as "thank you"?

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すみません — it also means "thanks for your trouble".

In a role-play in a trial lesson, squeeze through a crowded train car with 通とおります and すみません, and say 降おります before your stop.

FAQ

What is the difference between すみません and ごめんなさい? Both can mean "sorry", but すみません is the one used as "excuse me" to get a stranger's attention; ごめんなさい is a softer, more personal apology and sounds odd for that.

Is すいません the same as すみません? Yes. すいません is a common spoken form. In writing, すみません is standard.

How do you interrupt someone who is talking? Say お話し中はなしちゅうすみません or, more formally, お話し中はなしちゅう失礼しつれいします: "excuse me for interrupting".

Is it rude to call a waiter with すみません? No. It is the normal way in many Japanese restaurants.

What does ちょっとすみません mean? "Excuse me a moment", a slightly softer way to get attention or squeeze past.

How do you say "excuse me, could you take a photo?" すみません、写真しゃしんを撮とってもらえますか。 It is polite and very common at tourist spots.

Vocabulary from this article

Tap the block to select all of it, then copy. In Anki: File → Import, note type Basic, separator Tab — the first column becomes the front, the second the back.

すみません	すみません — excuse me; sorry; thanks for your trouble
失礼します	しつれいします — excuse me (entering, leaving)
お先に失礼します	おさきにしつれいします — excuse me for leaving first
失礼ですが	しつれいですが — excuse me, but...
恐れ入りますが	おそれいりますが — I'm sorry to trouble you, but...
通ります	とおります — coming through
降ります	おります — I'm getting off
注文	ちゅうもん — order (food)
少々	しょうしょう — a moment, a little (polite)
わざわざ	わざわざ — going to the trouble
駅	えき — station
写真	しゃしん — photo

I'm Yuuki, a Japanese teacher based in Tokyo. I've taught on italki as a Top 1% teacher and watched over 1,500 anime, so most of the example sentences on this blog come from lines I've actually heard students ask about. すみません is the single most useful word I give beginners before a trip, and 降おります is a close second for anyone who rides Tokyo trains. For practice with feedback, Book a trial lesson · $13, or work through Japanese practice exercises first.

Sources: the author's own lessons and standard reference grammars.

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